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The problem with marriage is that it ends every night after making love, and it must be rebuilt every morning before breakfast.
My Dear Wife
A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day
Trust... You have to trust the
person with whom you want to have relationship
If you're not sure about your feelings or your relationship, take things slowly. Spend time apart and see how you are feeling while you are away. Do you miss the person? Or are you more attracted to others when you are apart?
Every man sees his second mother in his wife but every woman sees her first child in her husband.
is a rocky road to walk on.
How to compromise with
and listen actively. If you have gotten into the habit of telling your
spouse what to do, it is time to stop in your tracks and start asking
instead. And do not be put off by initial responses such as "Oh I don't
know, whatever you suggest is fine by me." That is the sign of someone
long resigned to just agreeing for the sake of peace or getting things
done. Keep probing gently and asking what your spouse really wants. When
they tell you, listen. It might be all too easy to think you already know
the answer but in 99% of the time, you won't. So listen and respond to
what you hear, not what you want to hear.
On the other hand, if you have become the doormat in your marriage, it is
time to start saying how you feel, offering your opinions and giving your
take on how you would like to do certain things. You might have to take
time to develop the courage to do this but do it in baby steps and bit by
bit, you will start to change your approach to just accepting things as
they have always seemed to be.
Compromise. Whether you have been the chief organizer or the chief follower, learning compromise is the key to a happy relationship from here on. Learn how to make suggestions that take into account both parties. Consider such possibilities as:
If one of you is a spendaholic and the other a total thrifty, compromise
is essential to easing money tensions. The thrifty person needs to learn
to splurge now and then, while the spendaholic needs to curb the spending
urges. In both cases it is likely that family upbringing or other prior
experiences are directing monetary approaches and it is essential both
partners sit down and work out their finances instead of "hoping it'll
turn out all right". See Take a Healthy Approach to Finances in Your
Relationship for some ideas on best approaching this.
Successful marriage tips can often involve complex and time-consuming processes. Successful marriage tips also, though, can require very little effort and still offer significant payoffs. Simply by giving your marriage a bit of attention, and following these successful marriage tips, you can immediately improve the interactions between you and your spouse.
Successful Marriage Tip #1: The "One Minute" Secret
This tip is all about focus.
When you both return home after a day of work, before you do anything else, spend 60 seconds sharing a hug and a kiss, looking into each other’s eyes, and talking. If you’re the first one home, when your spouse arrives, stop what you’re doing and give him or her 60 seconds of affection and attention. This tip is powerful because of what happens between you on a subconscious level. It soothes your subconscious to press your bodies together and focus on each other for a full 60 seconds (and that’s longer that you think). It says warmth, home, love, and security in a very primal way.
Successful Marriage Tip #2: The "Best Sex" Secret
This tip has to do with understanding each other.
MEN — Become a master masseur: It’s been said that when it comes to sex, women are like ovens and men are like microwaves – quick to get hot. So this tip encourages you to get good at relaxing your wife and creating a real physical connection. A 5-minute foot massage at the end of the day. A caressing neck massage at bed time. A lower-back massage with some scented oil. These sensual acts show your commitment to her pleasure and can chase away any thoughts that block physical intimacy.
WOMEN — Seize the day. Initiate sex with your husband: This successful marriage tip is pretty simple. Men love it when women initiate sex. Plan to make the first move once a week, and make him an offer he can’t refuse.
Successful Marriage Tip #3: The "Cats and Dogs" Secret
This tip deals with conflict.
When you two are arguing, call a time-out and take turns stating the other person’s argument in your own words. You can even say, “TIME OUT!” Then each person must repeat the other person’s side of the argument to his or her satisfaction before the debate can continue. The reason this successful marriage tip is so powerful is because very person in this world wants to be understood. When you interrupt the fight and say to your spouse, “I REALLY need to hear and understand what you are saying, ” your subconscious message is, “I value you and respect you. What you are saying is important to me.” And when people feel understood, the anger often evaporates.
Successful Marriage Tip #4: The "Last Laugh" Secret
This tip is to get serious about laughter.
Grab a pen and make a list of five things that your spouse thinks are humorous. Then choose one and share a laugh tonight. Maybe it’s a DVD or humorous book. Perhaps your children did something hilarious or you heard a great joke at work. The point is, be on the lookout for stories and laughter-inducing incidents to share with your spouse. We strongly recommend this successful marriage tip because studies show that couples who laugh together on a daily basis have less stress, better sex, and a stronger connection. People also look forward to seeing an individual who helps them laugh...and that’s no joke.
01- Catch your spouse doing something right (Staying happily married)
02- Share domestic chores (Domestic work can keep love alive for couples)
03- Becoming a good listener (Listening is key to a successful marriage)
04- Share parental decisions and support (Share and share until you succeed)
05- Never forget to say please and thank you (Speaking your way to a blissful marriage)
06- Share financial responsibilities (Learn each other's spending styles)
07- Remember to apologize (Knowing when to say you are sorry)
08- Resolve conflicts quickly (Recognizing marital conflicts and solving them fast)
09- Establish marital goals (The family that prays together stays together)
10- Never go to bed angry (The key to a solid marriage)
11- Plan time for romance (Re-introduce romance into your married life)
12- Explore common interests (The only way to spice up your marriage)
13- Share your fears and insecurities (Sharing is loving, loving is sharing)
14- Don't be afraid to cultivate your own interests (The key to a lasting marriage)
15- Never succumb to jealousy
A Humorous Melody about marriage
Boy: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.
Girl: Do you want me to leave?
Boy: No! Don't even think about it.
Girl: Do you love me?
Boy: Of course! Over and over!
Girl: Have you ever cheated on me?
Boy: No! Why are you even asking?
Girl: Will you kiss me?
Boy: Every chance I get!
Girl: Will you hit me?
Boy: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!
Girl: Can I trust you?
man + smart woman = romance
» A man
will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.
woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.